Engineer's interpersonal relation with colleague.

This is the organized digest from "How to be star engineer" Article.

• Don't just focus on self engineering technique. The most important thing is co-workers' recognition.
• The stars were not standout because of what they had in their heads but because of how they used what they had.
•  Stars are made, not born.

9 key points:

1. Blazing trails: 
• only certain actions earn the initiative label. 
• Seeking out responsibility above and beyond job description.
• Undertaking extra efforts for the benefit of co-workers or the larger group.
• Stepping willingly into the gaps between job descriptions where important jobs pop-up, affording it, and doing the good job for them
• Sticking tenaciously to an idea or project and following it through to successful implementation.
2. Knowing who knows:
• Help the stars get unstuck for lake of knowledge is effective interpersonal networking.
• Effective interpersonal networking.
• Right people in them.
• They are fast to response.
• One to One and face to face communication is better to construct friendship.
• Maintain self interpersonal networking within a group expert who share knowledge for mutual benefit.
3. Proactive self-management 
• Stars do much more than managing time and project to meet control. Stars proactively create opportunities, direct work choices
• Despite the unsupportive manager, stars take every chance to enhance self value.
• Never give up.
4.  Getting the big picture
• Solve self tunnel vision and jump out of the concrete viewpoint to world.
• Stars' perspective grows out of getting enough experience to develop pattern recognition, expert's Intuition,
• iWoz: Engineer should keep the view in gray side.
• Adopt variety of perspectives to evaluate relative importance.
• Help others solve problems
• Valuable exposure to problems she would not have faced in her own work.
• Build variety of view. 
• Know others' view.
• Learn to do different job, and co-work with different groups.
• Seek out the ability to smell nuances of perspective, and keep to cultivate its benefits.
5. The right kind of followership
• Traditional follower: 
• How to tone the line.
• Take orders without question.
• not threaten the leader
• Not only follow the leader's single trail, but also become the the other trail to help leader reach the goal.
• Find what to do.
• Think how to do.
• Independent and decisive judgement.
• Predict the coming danger.
• Question about leaders' correctness.
• The relation between Right and Wrong is not XOR.
• Engineer should live in the gray area, not only black and white.
• Find the goal between leader and follower.
6. Teamwork as joint ownership of a project
• Co-work in star's view is a complex series of skills
• goal-setting.
• group commitments.
• work activities.
• schedules.
• share group accomplishments with team members.
• help everyone feel part of the team.
• deal with conflict.
• assist others in solving problems.
7. Small-I leadership
• View leadership as a work strategy:
• Build expertise and influence to convince to unite with each other.
• Need efforts:
• Help members build clear vision.
• Work with high commitment and trust necessary to get the goal.
• Finding the resource to get the goal.
• Shepherding the project to successful completion.
• The talent small-l leadership needs
• Know everything about others
• Know what's best for the followers and for the situation
• Needs
• Skill
• Desire
• Privilege
• Peers will go along only if they believe a member of the group who wants to lead is acting in their interest as much as his or her own
• The most different with Big-Leader
• Refusal to assume they know everything about other people
• Behavior
• Asking first, even when they think they already kow.
• Of course, reality can't satisfied any employee.
• Wins a lot of influence and recognition by sincere offer to listen and meet partial needs.
• Create the attitude: we're all-in-the-trenches-together.
8. Street smarts
• Don't be evil!
• Any large organization has legitimate competing interests.
• Ability to mediate each other to get the goal.
• Expertise in managing individual or group dynamics.
• When to avoid conflicts.
• When to meet them head on.
• How to make allies out of potential.
9. Show and tell
• Misunderstanding: Focus primarily on their image and their message, not on the audience.
• Stars do: Know audience and shape message to them.
• Prepare:
• To deliver a message to a targeted audience(figure out the Composition of them).
• Persuade listeners to accept the message.
• Be proactive in deflecting criticism.